The only thing that ever disempowered the bad luck and paralysis that my lack of confidence, relationsh*ts, heartbreak, and childhood trauma caused? Gratitude. 

Thankfulness is a feeling and gratitude is an action. To me, they are one and the same because if you truly feel thankful, you won’t be able to not act upon those feelings.

Gratitude naturally happens when thankfulness is felt.

I don’t like talking about gratitude because it seems so cliché. I think the term is overused, outplayed, and in many ways, like forgiveness, it can have this stigma of being unattainably zen.

I can’t NOT talk about gratitude though. It saved my life.

Today is Thanksgiving and although it’s not celebrated everywhere in the world, this is the start of the holiday season. The holidays are great until they’re not. Yeah, it’s the best time of the year but it can also be the most painful.

Nothing activates your triggers and highlights your heartbreak, loneliness, single-status, insecurities, and dysfunction more than the holidays.

The holidays do a really good job of making us feel guilty for not responding to them in the merriest way possible.

If right now you feel hopeless, heartbroken, and like you have to pretend to be happy through this holiday season, you are not alone.

For this post, instead of writing a brand new one, I wanted to add to and update my post from last year with more thankful quotes of mine.

Here is a master list of thankful quotes I’ve put together from the years of writing about heartbreak during the holidays…

  • #1: If you’re alone and missing an ex who treated you poorly, be grateful that at least you don’t have anyone cheating on you, lying to you, pulling the wool over your eyes, mind f*cking you, mixed-signaling you, drunk/high texting you, potentially giving you an STD, or deflecting blame.
  • #2: Feel thankful for the fact that you make your own emotional money. You are a person of high value and you produce your own emotional currency now. And because you know the value of your emotional dollar, you’re able to invest wisely. You never accept nor tie your value to disproportionate returns. And just like with literal dollars, because you have your own emotional riches, you don’t need to rely on anyone to foot the bill. Be grateful that you also know when to fold. You opt out of situations and relationships that are non-mutual and exclusively on your emotional dime.
  • #3: Even if you don’t have any true friendships, be grateful that you no longer have any more friendsh*ts. You’ve decided to flush the toilet instead of wasting your time spraying air freshener that never lasts over the crap that is a fake friend. Also, be grateful that you actually have the ability to flush and are no longer a slave to your disease to please.
  • #4: Give thanks for the knowingness that you are a person of high value. Be grateful that because you know how high your value is, you have no problem making a dignified exit on your white horse when you find yourself in friendsh*ts, relationsh*ts and situations that devalue you.
  • #5: Be grateful that you can you feel your feelings independent of reactivity. Feel a deep sense of gratitude for the fact that you’re a responder, never a batsh*t reactor. Response is rooted in action, reactivity is rooted in emotional impulse. 

  • #6: Be grateful for the f*cktards and the pain they have caused. I mean… it lead you here. You’re in a tribe made up of love, understanding, support, empathy, and badassness.
  • #7: Be grateful that you aren’t the new girl he’s with because he will end up doing the same thing with her. And be grateful that you respect yourself enough to go no contact with anyone who participated in your dishonoring – Regardless of the holidays, a birthday or whatever it may be.
  • #8: Be grateful for the fact that you now allow people to own their own behavior, words, and actions independent of your perceived lack of value. Thinking that it has something to do with you is not only reverse narcissistic, it negates reality – Reality that you no longer choose to argue with.
  • #9: Be grateful that you can do the one thing your ex can’t: Speak with your actions.
  • #10: Feel thankful that you stopped equating passion with potential and are now attracted to people as they are in the present moment.

  • #11: Feel thankful that you’re never going to be anyone’s emotional, financial, psychological, and/or empathetic training wheels ever again.
  • #12: Be grateful that you no longer miss your wet bathing suit. You wore this bathing suit all day – you sweat in it, went to the pool in it, the ocean, the bar, the club… you went everywhere it in. When you finally got home, you realized how dirty it was, hung it up and decided to shower. Just because someone else came along while you were getting clean and mistook your wet bathing suit for it being new/fresh out of the wash, she/he is STILL wearing your wet, dirty, used, sweat-in bathing suit (the bathing suit = your ex). Been there, done that. Unbothered.
  • #13: Feel thankful for knowing that no matter what anyone does/says to you – good or bad – it’s a window into their perceived shortcomings, dysfunction and pain, not a knife into yours.
  • #14: Give thanks for the allergy that you now have to f*cktards, bullsh*t and petty gossip/drama.
  • #15: Be grateful for the red and pink flags. Even if you didn’t act on them right away, it’s better to be alone now than to be in a relationship where you feel more alone than physical aloneness.

  • #16: Be grateful for your privacy and your health. They are sacred.
  • #17: Feel thankful that you’re using the dysfunction of others to motivate you out of your own.
  • #18: Be grateful that you were his karma and he was your northern star.
  • #19: Feel thankful that you are no longer wasting time shining your light on f*cktards and marveling at their illumination.
  • #20: Feel thankful for other people’s allergic reactions to your evolution. It’s a sign that you’re on the right path. Keep evolving and be kind along the way. The world will adjust.

  • #21: Be greatful that you already have the best friend you’ll ever have. The secret to the solid friendships I have is that I let go of expectation. When I learned to love myself, I naturally stopped being so touchy, so hypersensitive, so offended and so let down in my relationships. I let go of soul-eroding jealousy and my constant need to “win” and be chosen. I realized that no matter who rejected me, abandoned me, or hurt me in my life, I’d always be with the one person who would never let me down or leave my side: ME.
  • #22: Feel thankful for the bullet nuclear bomb that you dodged. Be grateful that it didn’t work out with your emotionally unavailable ex. The shadow of the next person will be brighter than your ex’s light at it’s fullest amplification.
  • #23: Be grateful that you fell off your white horse and have decided to set boundaries as a result.
  • #24: Be grateful for your failed relationships because they mirrored the relationship that you had with yourself. They showed you what you needed to work on and what you no longer needed to tolerate.
  • #25: Feel thankful for your pain. Knowing pain allows you to appreciate happiness that much more. It allows you to stop taking others more seriously than they take themselves. The most beautiful people in this world are the ones that know pain, suffering, failure, loss, rejection, abandonment, and have found their way out of the darkness. These are the most incredible people you will ever meet and guess what? You’re one of them.

  • #26: Feel thankful that you’re existing, right now. Our time is not a given, it’s a privilege.
  • #27: Be grateful for your intuition and that you now act on it instead of prosecuting it to invisibility. He was this way before you, with you, and he will continue to be who he is after you.
  • #28: Feel thankful that you’re done tying your worth to the actions and inactions of others.
  • #29: Give thanks that you’ve run out of sh*ts to give. Seriously. You’re done giving a sh*t about sh*t that doesn’t matter. You now have standards and limits. And it feels fantastic.
  • #30: Be grateful that you can speak with your actions and stay on the white horse. Most people can’t. Don’t give anyone the opportunity to label you as the resident psycho who needs a leash and a muzzle. Let your actions speak. Silence is louder than any word known to man.

  • #31: Feel thankful that your ex didn’t value you because it allowed you to learn how to value you. It also made you realize that he/she didn’t value themselves.
  • #32: Be grateful that he’s with her now. You have not only put an end to the f*cktard era of your life, but you now know what you don’t want and what you won’t put up with. She is a non-entity in your life. Be kind to other girls, always. It’s not her fault that she can’t see yet what you already know.
  • #33: Be grateful for your health. It’s all you have. If you’re like me and your health got affected when you were going through heartbreak, be thankful that you have the opportunity to reclaim it and take care of your beautiful body that has never let you down.
  • #34: Be grateful for your resilience. Your success rate for getting over trauma is 100%. If it weren’t, you would not be reading this right now.
  • #35: Be grateful for the people in your life who value you, show up for you, have your back, and match their words with their actions. 

  • #36: Feel thankful that you will attract what you now exude.
  • #37: Be grateful that your ex made you feel worthless. Why? Because that was the last time he/she or anyone else ever will.
  • #38: Be thankful that you are the adult, best friend, advocate, savior, hero, mother, father, and inspiration that you needed when you were younger and didn’t have.
  • #39: Feel thankful for your ability to ACT upon those feelings with gratitude – Even if you feel like you have a long way to go.  “Without gratitude and appreciation for what you already have, you’ll never know true fulfillment. As soon as you truly commit to making something happen, the ‘how’ will reveal itself. When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears. Live every day with an attitude of gratitude.” – Tony Robbins
  • #40: Be grateful for your strength. “I am thankful for the struggle because without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.” – Alex Elle

Be thankful that we all have each other. You are never alone.

Choose gratitude because gratitude is the only emotional life raft there is.

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you who celebrate. I am so grateful for each and every one of you, all around the world.

x Natasha

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Was just thinking of you. I was hoping you were going to post another Thanksgiving post! AND YOU DID <3 Happy Thanksgiving Natasha.
So grateful to have come across your blog last year and I am grateful for every post this year that has helped me out.

xoxo

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Happy Thanksgiving, Natasha!!

I am so grateful for where I am today, and I can only imagine where I will be one, five, ten years from now!

You rock. xo

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I meant to say, where I am emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically….. I have been working tirelessly for the past 2 years to truly enlighten myself (not bullshit buzzword enlightenment — real, chain-breaking freedom), and I feel like I’m inhabiting another person’s body. That is how much progress I’ve made. And you have certainly helped me.

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I’m smiling from ear to ear and honored to have played even the smallest part in your healing <3 You are incredible Dana. Love you.

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Dana! Happy Thanksgiving 🙂 I’m so grateful for YOU.

Right back at you sister. Hope that you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! xoxo

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Thank you again for this today. A year and a half and I still have my days. But, I’m getting stronger and learning how to be alone and okay with it. I never thought I would be at this point in my life but grateful for my blessings and knowing I will be okay alone no matter which route my life now takes me either in a relationship or just myself traveling.

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Hi Mia! I’m happy that the post helped 🙂 Isn’t that the best? Knowing that no matter what, you’ll be okay. I know that you will be MORE than okay. You’re never alone. It will continue to get better and better.

Your love, support and sisterhood mean everything to me. Sending you big love. XOX

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Happy Thanksgiving Tribe! Thankful to have found this site. It’s been a blessing.

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Happy Thanksgiving Ricki! I’m so thankful that you’re a part of it 🙂 XOXO

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I just wanted to say thank you for your honest, frank, kick ass blog, it’s helping me rediscover my self respect and dignity! You have no idea how much that means to me!

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Hi Paula! You have no idea how much your love and support mean to ME 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to comment and for being a part of this tribe! XO

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Very grateful for you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for teaching me how to be a strong woman. I know that I don’t know you and we have never met but I adore you.

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Kristie, the feeling is mutual 🙂 Thank YOU from the bottom of my heart for your sisterhood, support and love.

Thank you for affirming that I was/am never alone in feelings, thoughts and experiences that for so long, I felt extremely alone in.

Love to you soul sister. XOXO

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You are a blessing Natasha. On a day when I felt so lonely I am thankful for you and the tribe. ??

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Likewise 🙂 I am so grateful for you and your love. Thanks Linda! XOXO

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Wow! I felt like you were speaking straight to me! This has lifted me up at the end of a rough day! You are such a blessing! I’m learning so much about myself and starting to feel empowered by reading your posts!
I’m extra thankful for you and your willingness to share your wisdom on this Thanksgiving Day! My life is shifting because of you ?

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Hi Janna! I’m so happy that the post served you and honored to help 🙂

I am just as grateful for you, your love, support, and for being a part of this tribe.

All my love to you soul sister. xx

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W O W. Out of all the amazing posts you have written, THIS one hit me right in the heart, to where I had to put my phone down and say a thankful prayer. Just earlier, I had a painful breakdown, tears streaming down my face as I clutched my baby. Seeing all the happy couples on thanksgiving, and even baby announcements, and here I am, a single mother, trying to heal. I felt hopeless, and unworthy, and replaceable. I’ll never understand how some people are so capable of inflicting so much pain, and not even think twice about it, but you’re right: it’s totally a projection and a reflection of the garbage human they are inside. Thank you, thank you, so so much for this, because I can lay down and sleep in peace tonight on this Thanksgiving night, with so much to be grateful for. God bless.

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Priscilla,

I am in tears. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to share. I’m happy that the post served you. Please know that you are loved, supported, understood, backed, believed in and never, ever alone. I am endlessly grateful for you sister. Sending you love and a big giant hug. XOXO

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This is beautiful, Natasha! There is true power in simplicity. These awesome things to be grateful for, that you write about, are sparkling jewels. Not a paper crown.
Love you xxx

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🙂 You are a gem. Thank you. I love you Lorelle! xxxx

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And I am forever grateful for you. My relationsh*t led me to you & your amazing tribe. Love you soul sister ?

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Rebecca! My gratitude is endless for your relationsh*t – it allowed for us to meet, for you to realize your worth and to flush the sh*t that wasn’t serving you. I love you so much soul sis.

Grateful for you everyday. XX

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The tribe is eternally grateful for Natasha Adamo. Thank you for sharing your strength & wisdom, especially during the holiday season.

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In tears. My gratitude for you is limitless.

Hope that you had a Thanksgiving as wonderful as you are.

Love you sis. xx

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Hello again!
I commented yesterday but have just re read this when I woke up.
Although written in the spirit of Thanksgiving and in the holiday season that is upon us ( agreed! This time of the year is so good at magnifying the sadness and loneliness in life) – what really hit me is the way this article carries weight all year round.

It’s so illuminating to the fact, that, there’s a bright side to everything. Even on the daily.

Heartbroken because you were with someone who sucked you dry? VS isn’t it great to wake up and know you’ll never be emotionally run over again because you know your worth and have moved on.

Got some passively bitchy ‘friends ‘ who only like to talk about themselves unless it’s to subtly put you down? VS I’m so grateful my boundaries have a sensor system tha goes off to let me know when I’m with someone who doesn’t really care about me. (So I limit my exposure around them b3cause I know I deserve better and refuse to accept this low grade treatment).

Holidays give us space from everyday life, and therefore time to think and refocus. I think that we need to find a moment like that each day for ourselves too. On the ordinary days. And if in that moment, you feel sad, lonely, rejected, lost, hurt, used or ridiculed, realise that’s the gift. Find the other side of your pain, and illuminate that. Find the blessing, and illuminate that. It’s still hard some days, but most days in life are the ordinary kind. And you’re extradinary, so turn that pain on it’s head and GLOW. Bask in what you can appreciate. Self love rules all.

That’s what I got out of this post.
Thanks so much, Natasha !

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YES, YES, YES! I could not agree more or say it any better. Thank YOU for ILLUMINATING my posts with your love, light, wisdom and wonderfully old, incredibly beautiful soul. Love you Lorelle! XX

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Awwww xx you say such beautiful things, Natasha xx thank you xx ❤️

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I like to think of gratitude (along with non-reactivity) as the secret weapon of the white horse rider ?

So thankful I get to add you and this beautiful tribe to my list of reasons to be grateful this year!

All my love,
Amy xx ?

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I love that! could not have said it any better 🙂 Thanks Amy!

I feel the same way! So grateful for you, your love, compassion, empathy, sisterhood, friendship, kindness and support.

Love you soul sis! XO

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All I have to say is wow and thank you for always jerking me see things so Clear. I’m so grateful my pain led me to such an inspiring uplifting page with so much insite. I’m thankful to be on my own white horse now. I love you.

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Hi Natalie!! I’m so happy that the blog has helped 🙂 It’s such a great feeling when you can be grateful for the pain propelling you into healing, evolving, connecting with yourself and people who value you.

You are loved, valued, appreciated, empathized with, understood and never, ever alone. Thank you for being the light that you are and for being a part of this tribe. XOXO

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Thank you for filling me up today ????

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Thank YOU Nicole – for your love, support, for being a part of this tribe and for being the light that you are. Sending you love sister. <3 xx

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2.5 years ago, I turned to your blog when my partner walked out on me, saying he didn’t feel for me the way I felt for him. 2.5 years later, a month ago, he did the same thing, for the 7th time. Can one be blindsided 7 times by the same person? I’m learning to forgive myself for being a fool in love. And for not knowing my worth. I’m turning to you again, Natasha, this time to make permanent changes and grow into the woman I want my future daughter to be. I thank the universe for your gift, and your generosity. Thank you for not making me feel completely alone.

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You are never alone Elisha <3 And yes, that can happen and has happened to me before (more times than 7 from the same person). You are loved, understood, backed, believed in and never, EVER alone. xx

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Happy thanksgiving Natasha ! Wow thank you for these 40 commandments of self love ! I know we ( the tribe ) all say you seem to post at the most Devine timing ! I really needed this today, saw him after 24 months and although indifference was felt, it still brings back painful memories as we all know too well. You spoke to my heart and soul and have helped me on my journey back to self love ❤️ You also helped me with a decision about a friendship I was questioning myself about, I know I’m doing right on the white horse. I admire your strength and talent so much, to reach out to all us girls and help us all in our challenges, I hope this uplift comes back to you to enrich your own happiness. Masses of love and respect always. God bless you & HAPPY HOLIDAYS xxxxx

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Jules!

Happy Holidays to you too sis 🙂

I love you so much <3 YOU and your love, connection, understanding, and friendship enrich my happiness. I am so honored to help and thankful that I am not/was never alone.

So proud of and happy for you - Keep on your white horse and keep having your own back. I cannot wait to meet in person one day. Love you. xx

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Thank you. You’re the best, your posts make me happy and stronger ! Can’t wait to meet you too. It would be great for us all to meet up in the future ❤️ Masses of love xxxxxx

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♥️♥️♥️♥️😘

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I needed to read this and be reminded that my self- worth is not dependent on an unavailable fucktard who shit her pants emotionally, lied, ran and treated me like dirt. The Holidays are very tough, but I’m grateful to have read this today. I continue to go over the No Contact Course day after day and I deserve better in my life. She will lose and will always lose because of how she behaves and not take responsibility for her actions. Happy Thanksgiving Natasha and Thank you for getting me back in line today and away from Fantasy Land.

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Brady,

I love you, your energy, enthusiasm, and awareness. I love how much your comment motivated me to want to fold from bs and be my most confident, strong, and badass self. I am giving you a virtual hug and high-5 right now and cannot wait to do so in person. You are never alone.

So happy for and proud of you my dear friend.

Glad that the course is helping 🙂 You deserve so.much.more than crumbs from a self-proclaimed loaf factory.

Thank you for taking the time to comment and thank you for existing. xo

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Happy Thanksgiving Beautiful Natasha.
Thank you for this reminder and amazing post. I love you and am sooooo grateful for you and all you do.
I hope you have a great day. I am also grateful for this tribe. I wish you all good things.
😘🌸💕🦄

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Happy Thanksgiving my dear sister and friend. I love you too and am thankful for you each and every day 🙂 XO

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Thank you Natasha 💖💖

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🙂 xxxx

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Thank you for this. Today has been hard. It’s been 2 and a half years since my engagement ended. I have not dated at all. I am learning to love myself and spend time alone. Holidays are hard though. I feel a need for a good cry. Making the most of every day though and the few people I can trust. Blessed for so much in my life. I know things will be good and whats meant to be will be. Thank you Natasha.

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You aren’t alone, Mia. There are woman all over the world feeling your pain with you. Hope that helps.

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<3 XOXO

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Mia,

You are not alone and we will get through these holidays together <3 I mean it and know exactly how you feel. And if I can rise up from my own ashes, you can most definitely do it with me, through this holiday season. I love you sis. xx

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Thank you! Holidays are hard and I tend to fall back into the illusion and the hope I had for the relationship rather than the reality of it and who he is. Praying for healing, strength and for us all to move forward knowing we deserve better . That we all embrace our value and will never settle or ignore the red flags again.
Happy Thanksgiving to you all! Xo

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YES! <3 Thank you Judy 🙂 Love you.

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Really needed this article yesterday. Recently went NC with a soul sucking man that I was wildly (blindly) in love with for years. Though good for me, I’ve definitely slipped into depression and feelings of unworthiness abound. Wondering if I’ll be alone forever. Wondering if I’ll ever be loved by good guy. The holidays are making this a lot hard. So many intrusive relatives wondering why I’m 30 and still single.

Any hope out there for someone feeling like they might as well buy 10 cats and come to terms with the fact that I may never find true love?

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Yes, there is hope. I am here to tell you that there is and that we will get through these holidays together Kelly. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to remain in no contact and on your white horse.

You are not alone. Love you xox

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I love this, Natasha !

So much to be thankful for 🙂
These are all wonderful examples. And then, there is you!
Grateful! For you and your light! Xx

❤️💫🌱🌟🕊🙏

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RIGHT BACK at you sister. I love you so much Lorelle and am endlessly thankful for you 🙂 x

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This holiday was the first time we celebrated without my beloved gram who sadly passed away last month. And now we just suffered another loss yesterday with my uncles unexpected passing. Finding it hard right now to be thankful as my family and i have been thru so much lately. It doesn’t seem fair at all. I would be lying if I said i don’t still think about my ex and still miss him especially during times like this. Tomorrow would have been out 2 year engagement anniversary and of course it makes me sad… thinking what could have been and all the plans we had. The holidays seem to highlight these painful reminders and although I am grateful for the people in my life that are still here… my heart still hurts so much for what is gone.
I wish you all peace and love this season as you spend time with loved ones. Enjoy these special moments and appreciate every day you are here with them. You never know what could happen tomorrow…
❤🙏❤🙏
Sending love and light to all.
xxxxxx
#whitehorsewarriors

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Hi Vicki.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know how painful it is. I have lost many people. My dad passed on the 10th of December ove 30 years ago but I never forget and there is always a void. I will say that a person learns to accept but I do not enjoy this time of the years like others do.
It is hard not to yearn for the person who you gave your heart to. Who knows though it may be worse if they were still around As Natasha states in her post we have to be kind of grateful we are not dealing with their crap and spending our time that way.
Anyway, I wish you strength and courage in your healing. Just give yourself time to cope with the loss. Grief takes time.
Be well and stay strong and hold on to your white horse. 💕🌸😘🦄

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This made me cry. Thank you for your heart, your spirit, your empathy, and your compassion Linda. Thank you for existing. I love you. XO

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Thank you Linda… I honestly don’t know how to process everything that has happened anymore. Just when I think I am doing okay and feeling stronger, something seems to knock me back a few steps and I feel overwhelmed again with emotions. Sadness, grief, anger, frustration… I feel like getting in my car and driving far away from everyone and everything in my life right now. Trying to find joy in even the smallest of things seems like a struggle for me at the moment.. I hate feeling this way. Too much shit going on in my head to talk about and I just get angry the more I think about things. Nothing makes sense right now and my mind and my heart are not on the same page. My uncles service is tomorrow and having to say goodbye to another person in my life is just too much … my heart is so heavy.

xxxxxx

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Vicki, I swear your heart becomes less heavy. It is a lot at one time so give yourself room to breath. You have to take time to process. Believe me I know from many losses myself. Just take one second at a time. I am thinking of you and pray for you to have strength.

<3 <3 <3 Love you both.

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Vicki,

I am crying too hard to type out everything I want to after reading this. I am so sorry for your losses. You have family here and are supported and loved.

I love you and am here for and with you, always.

#whitehorsewarriors xo

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love you too dear Natasha.
xxxxx

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I am thinking of you sister. You are forever my girl and never alone.

We love you Vicki <3 #whitehorsewarriors

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Thank you, Natasha, for posting this. You’re right. The holidays are the hardest. I was doing quite well until the day after Thanksgiving. I hosted an amazing dinner party. Friends and family love it to the point that there were no leftover! I was quite proud of myself. And then, the next day when I checked my IG account, I saw a post of the gal that he’s currently dating, posted a photo of his dog. The funny part is, I’ve met his new gal at a sporting event. We hit it off without realizing that she was dating him at the time. It wasn’t until we added each other on IG that we both knew we have a “mutual” connection. What a coincidence. I didn’t want to seem like a weak person, so I didn’t unfollow/unfriend her. We became stuck as this awkward social media friends. I sat on my white horse for awhile, and continue, being active and doing the things that I love. But that day when I saw that photo on IG, I knew I was not okay. It was the holiday and everybody was with someone, and for once in a long time, I missed him. I finally took the rein and unfollowed her for my peace of my heart. I felt like I took two steps backward from the hard work that I had built, and I was in this sad state. When I saw you posted this article, I felt better. A shining beam came over and I remember why him and I didn’t work out in the first place. So thank you, Natasha. I am grateful, especially for #32 and the rest on your list. I appreciate it.

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Alisha,

Omg that is a VERY crazy coincidence. I would have unfriended her at that point of realization but I understand your reasoning and have done the same in the past for fear of not wanting to be rude or come across in a negative way.

I am so proud of you for staying on your white horse and for giving yourself the GIFT of having your own back and unfollowing. You did the right thing.

Happy that this post helped 🙂 I have a feeling that the next 2 posts will be very helpful.

Love you sister. You are not alone in this and are doing SO WELL. You got this <3 and she, unfortunately, has a non-mutual relationship. No thanks!

XOXO

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Dear Natasha,
Thanks so much for this blog I can relate to it so much! What I like about it is you are so honest, what i’ve realised my self and through what you write is that not only have I let people treat me like a door mat and constantly leave me which is very painful but that I have created it myself. I know that I am not a bad person but I am so scared of rejection and hurt that I treat people in a shitty selfish way at times not respecting boundaries and clinging because of fear and being in a victim mindset rather than looking at them as a real human being but as someone who can fulfil my longing for acceptance and love which I need to provide for myself. I love that you had the courage to admit to something similar on this blog it gives me ciurage.

I am however excited to work through this pain and become the happiest healthiest me and you have been one of the inspirations beginning to plan my own blog. Love you xxx

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Rosie,

I love you. This is the greatest gift you could ever give me – your connection, love, and a commitment to your peace and happiness. I am so happy and honored to help 🙂 Thank you for being a part of this tribe. xoxo

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#41 I’m grateful for finding PMS and finding you! You literally saved my life and I’ll never know how to thank you enough for what you done for me. I’m not the same person since I know you.
Every post I read in the PMS is a life changing post, I love the you share your personal stories because then I feel like I’m not the only one who go throw this.
Natasha, thank you for EVERYTHING! For this amazing tribe and for who you are ♥️
Love you xoxo

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I am just as grateful for you 🙂

You are never alone Nurit and I am so honored to help and be there for you as you are me. Love you too sister <3 xo

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