HOW TO STOP SEEKING VALIDATION & LIVE LIFE ON YOUR TERMS

I cringe when I think about the amount of time I’ve wasted in my life, obsessing and humiliating myself on an endless quest for validation. Trying to figure out how to stop seeking validation was always impossible because at every moment, there was someone who I was convinced – if I just worked a little harder and gave … Continue Reading

NO EMPATHY: HOW TO DEAL WITH (& DATE) THOSE WHO LACK EMPATHY

I’ve written about empathy before – the consequences of having no empathy and why empathy is the ultimate game changer. Empathy is the ultimate game changer because the level of happiness, understanding, fulfillment, security, appreciation and CONNECTION that you feel in your relationships will always be directly linked to the level of empathy that both you and … Continue Reading

HOW TO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND WHEN YOU FEEL HOPELESS

“How to turn your life around when you feel hopeless,” is something that I’ve Google’d so many times, if I had a dollar for every time I searched for the answer, I’d be writing to you from Monaco right now while being manicured, feather fanned and hand fed tater tots. All joking aside, what I’m … Continue Reading

A VALENTINE’S DAY NOTE FROM ME TO YOU

Valentine’s Day is exciting because it marks the last of the “damn-it-sucks-to-be-single” / “damn-it-sucks-to-be-in-a-drama-filled-mind-f*cking-relationsh*t” / “damn-it-sucks-to-miss-him-this-much-STILL-and-not-get-to-be-with-him-or-know-what-he’s-doing-today,” holidays that seem to highlight all the stuff that’s missing, messed up and depressing in our lives. I’ve had so many drowning-in-my-sorrow, lonely Valentine’s Days because to me Valentine’s meant romance. If I was single – “GALentines” snoozer which included gossip/drama/calories I didn’t … Continue Reading

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

“How to deal with rejection,” is something I’ve been searching for my entire life. Rejection and abandonment have always been my biggest fears and unfortunately, my most detonating and consistent reality. Acceptance, inclusion and validation were always the unattainable nirvana. One of the most difficult things for me is dealing with the “constant-knawing-lingering-OCD-FBI-detective-must-find-out-why-I’m-so-unlovaeble-this-will-never-f*cking-go-away-how-can-this-happen-to-me-AGAIN,” feelings of rejection and living … Continue Reading