Let’s talk about rebound relationships. You know, that thing you’ll never label your ex as being in because you’re more comfortable convincing yourself that he’s a changed, f*cktard-no-more, emotionally available, empathetic prince that’s now with a new/hot/cool girl who’s everything you never were and never can be. He’s doing everything with her that he wouldn’t do with you, no matter how hard you tried. The breakout on your forehead begins to read “FML” in Braille.

Rebound relationships, once understood and identified, will actually help you get over your ex, your breakup and your heartbreak much faster than trying to FBI-investigate, stalk, obsess, drink, hot-selfie post and gossip your way out of it, ever will.

After the heartbreak execution-style-emotional-gang-bang-psychological-mortal-combat-level-impossible that is breaking up, the next step is moving on. You may have even gotten to the point where you start to feel yourself getting better, thinking about him every few hours instead of every.single.f*cking.second. And then, you find out from a mutual friend that he’s moved on.

It’s not a race but it kind of totally is and he just f*cking won. He beat you to it. All the “progress” that you convinced yourself you made is long gone and you’re left feeling like an un-sexy, unwanted fool. You start bracing yourself for the inevitable proposal that was supposed to be yours while you scroll through the Instagram of her Aunt’s daughter’s prom date’s sister’s brother. 

But maybe, this could actually be a good thing…. You heard me. Maybe the joke’s on him, karma is slowly kicking in and he’s in the biggest relationsh*t joke of all: the rebound.

What exactly are rebound relationships?

What are the 5 main signs that your ex is in one & why are rebound relationships the ultimate fail?

Let’s find out? YES YES YES.

What exactly are rebound relationships and why are we so hesitant to label our ex as being in one? 

Rebound relationships are a specific type of relationsh*t that forms relatively quickly after a breakup with someone that you were claiming to be serious with, committed to, “seeing a future” with, loyal to, and emotionally involved with.

Rebound relationships are adult security blankets composed of 0% cotton and 1000% self-serving avoidance of guilt, emotional turmoil, responsibility and reality. 

Rebound relationships are nothing more than distractions. Period. The reason that they usually result in epic fail is because of the very distraction that they provide. As long as you’re “distracted,” you never get to emotionally heal, deal and ultimately better yourself by learning from your mistakes and evolving. You’re still the same bag of douches in the same kind of relationsh*t, no matter who you’re with. This is how negative patterns are developed and why people keep dating different types of partners; getting the same result. 

The reason that we are so hesitant to label our exes as being in rebound relationships is because we’re vulnerable and our happiness has been taken away. It then becomes so much easier to subscribe to the story that he’s a better, emotionally available man in a better relationship with a better girl. All the insecurities that he activated, all of the things that he made you question about yourself in your relationship are now valid, so why NOT believe that he’s happy? It gives you a license to continue to remain passively invested through closeted and humiliating means that do nothing but further disintegrate your confidence and value.

So as far as rebound relationships go, what are the 5 main signs that your ex is in one?

  1. He started the relationsh*t before he ended it or as he was ending it with you.
  2. If it’s been a relatively short amount of time (it’s all relative, but I like to say 3 months or less), since the breakup/last time he spoke with you, it’s highly likely that this is a relationsh*t of the rebound species. The faster he moves on after the breakup, the more affected by the relationship and hurt he was (and is). If he starts dating someone new right away, it’s an immediate cop-out from accountability and from having to explain to everyone why he’s still single. It saves him from having to explain to everyone why he has yet another failed relationship under his belt. It also provides a distraction from having to think about you, from having to explain his actions and from having to talk about you to inquiring family and friends, let alone utter your name. Think about it. Because he’s dating someone else, he doesn’t have to explain to anyone why it didn’t work out with you (and generally, guys like this are so narcissistic, they don’t like having to view or talk about themselves/their actions in a negative way).
  3. Even if he doesn’t directly flaunt his new relationsh*t, he makes it known on social media that he’s happy/changed/succesful/”busy,” etc. This is nothing more than chain yanking at its finest and also an attempt to see if he can still elicit a reaction out of you. If you freak out and start texting him “WTF FU texts,” it does nothing but inflate his ego and make him feel like less of an a**hole for the breakup (because if he truly screwed you over/broke your heart, you throwing a fit because he’s with someone new translates to him that you still care and if you still care it means that he can’t be that bad of a guy, because if he was really that bad, you wouldn’t be giving him the time of day). It also affirms that he has made the right decision by not being with you.
  4. Friends/family/coworkers are surprised that he’s in a new relationship already. 
  5. The new girl is vastly different from you. This proves the whole distraction factor even more.

Why do rebound relationships fail?

Rebound relationships fail because no evolution or change takes place on his end. No healing, no dealing. It’s hard to form a mutual, genuine and long-term relationship with someone that was either built on deception or has happened directly after a previous relationship has ended. If he was an emotionally unavailable f*cktard with you and he’s now dating someone after you’ve broken up, you can bet he’s still the same guy with her – no matter what he posts, snaps or tweets. And it doesn’t matter how amazing she is either. Ultimately, no one can make anyone change out of being who they are at the core.

I know it’s hard, but you don’t need to keep making this all about you. Him moving on has absolutely nothing to do with you. The reason that it feels like it’s all about you is because you’re tying your value to his actions and inactions. You keep looking to him for validation. Just because he’s made the decision to date someone new, that decision doesn’t devalue who you are. Someone else’s decisions and your value are two separate entities; completely independent of one another.

You’re giving this guy too much credit. He clearly didn’t put you on the forefront of his decision making while you were in the relationsh*t, so why are you assuming that he’s going to make all of his post-relationsh*t decisions with your feelings in mind?

He’s just as validation hungry as you are. He needed a quick distraction from having to address his own issues, so he started to look for someone else to fool. Instead of dealing with his emotions in a healthy way and taking the time to emotionally heal and deal, he chose to get involved in a rebound relationship because that’s what narcissistic, emotionally disconnected guys who are incapable of empathy DO.

So what do you do? You stay on your white horse, choose to reside in a state of non-reactivity and get out of the compare game. I know it’s hard.

This new fling will not work out because he is still the disconnected guy that he was before you, with you, and that he’s continuing on to be because THIS IS WHO HE IS. It doesn’t matter how amazing of a girl you think he’s with or how convinced you are that he’s REALLY moved on and changed. He hasn’t.

Go about your business, do your thing and don’t give into the urge to gossip to friends, analyze the crap out of whats going on or contact him and play into the “psychotic desperate ex” part that he’s so certain you’re going to play, he’s already written the part for you in his mind (so he can remain a victim).

Let him have his victim card. Don’t get preoccupied with being “right,” “chosen,” or “winning.” If he treated you with an absence of respect, decency, loyalty, love or value, believe me when I say that there is absolutely nothing to “win.” Every time you miss him, come here to the blog. Even if he get’s married tomorrow – none of it is an indicator of a changed and evolved person. If that were the case, there would be no divorces in the world.

Change and evolution take time – time that you’re not willing to waste by waiting around.

x natasha

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I seriously can’t stop with this post. It’s so good, I’ve bookmarked it. Thank you for changing and saving my life Natasha. I hope that you have a very happy 4th of July!

xoxo~ Jasmine

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YASSS! Holy WOW. You nailed it once again and you look so fierce in those pants. I read that someone said this in another comment on the last post, but you do really look exactly like Kate Beckinsale. Gorge!

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My heart thanks you for this <3

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Yup yup yup the inevitable conundrum of unanswered questions and tying my worth to what my ex might be in now, the famous unreliable source to move on “the rebound.” I’m very familiar and the term rebound. It is almost as similar to what the term rebound is used in basketball. In basketball, after someone attempts to shoot the ball, whether the player makes it in the hoop or not, the opposing team is suppose to grab the basketball quickly enough to bring it to their side of the court without the other team getting another advantage to shoot. In the same way, my ex went to grab a person (the rebound) at a fast pace to hopefully make a score. If my ex doesn’t score with taking advantage of the rebound, there is a chance he will be coming right back. To me. What’s different now, is that I saw the strategy my ex was trying to cook up because I was on the other side of the court watching him play. If and when he comes back, I won’t be that sucker. Not anymore. I’m done playing.

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Melody – omg I am LOVING that analogy. Thank you for this amazing feedback!! x

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This really, really was a great post and is helping me realize my worth. Thank you very much, Natasha. You are awesome.

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Xoxo

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Thanks Tracey! I’m so glad that it helped! You are worth everything. Right back at you soul sister xoxo

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How do you bookmark a page?

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Power in that article. I GOT it. I did. Maybe he’ll replace the new pic that the “rebound” took of him with the one I took for his dating profile. C L A S S Y. What a big tub of DOUCHE. Lol. Thank you for the post, N 😝

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LOL! Thanks sister! 🙂 xx

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This is helping me so so much and it’s exactly what I’m going through!! Finally feeling a sense of clarity and hope of moving on will be that much easier. Thank you Natasha!!! Love you xoxo

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Thank you sister love you too! X

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something i am curious about and was hoping you mention it in this wonderful post. Does rebound relationships have a time span? If so how long does those relationships commonly last?

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Yes girl yes! All of this is so true! And thank god I’m out of that relationsh*t and she’s now in it a month after he dumped me. Karma is a biotchhh. Xoxo

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HAHA YES! Thx Heather 🙂 XO

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Thank you so much Natasha. Everytime I miss him I come to this blog and read it. Rebound Relationships. You talk about whatever I need on right moment
Love you. xoxoxoxo. I love your last picture on Instagram as well

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Thanks Gem! 🙂 xoxo

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I’ve heard he’s been dating countless of girls but its only one date and he goes to the next date some even the same day. I know there was one he like but she didn’t like him back. He hasn’t really been successful even if he shows up he has more than one date per day. I don’t know if its the same thing as rebound relationships or sinilar.

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Is it still considered a rebound if he was the one to break up with me? We were together for nearly 8 years, very much in love until the last 6 months we each had some stressful times at work and I had a death in the family. Unfortunately it took its toll and we drifted apart, but just as things were getting better he said he wanted to break up. He has been with an old flame ever since we broke up and it’s quite possible that they were messaging whilst we were still together which helps explain why he didn’t want to work on things as this was our first ever bump in the road for our entire relationship, so it didn’t make sense to me that he just wanted to give up until I realised there was another girl on the scene. I don’t think he’s dealt with any emotions, but I don’t know if he actually has any because he can’t be that sad if he’s moved on already. My family and friends are so shocked by his behaviour, could it be possible it’s a distraction and he doesn’t have to think about us parting? It’s so unfair I’m here heartbroken and hoping for someone nice to come along whilst he’s off having a lovely time in the honeymoon period with someone else. I desperately don’t want to feel this way anymore and I keep being told how lovely I am and that I won’t be single for long, but I don’t have much faith that I’ll find someone else. It’s such a huge knock to your confidence and self-esteem it’s kind of unreal. 🙁

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OMG this is amazing. Me and my ex broke up in March however we slept together at the end of May. Since then we were going back and forth him dragging me along and putting me on the back burner until i finally decided to stop contact. AND THEN i find out he’s with another girl and doing almost the exact same things he did with/for me and at first i was so hurt thinking our relationship meant nothing to him before me friend pointed out, its just a rebound and he’s doing the same things because 1. he knows thats how to get a girl and 2. he’s trying to make her into the girl you were, trying to relive the good parts of the relationship. And reading all of this really made me realize things, i thought because me and her were so different it couldn’t be a rebound because this time he had found a girl who was different and good for him but then i realized it is just a distraction he’s never gone longer than few months without a girlfriend so he always needs someone there to fill the void and it doesn’t mean she’s different/amazing/way better than me.

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EXACTLY Jeanann. You go girl! Thx beautiful! XOXO

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Omg yes. Im going through the same thing. He is recreating the things we have shared before. Its weird. Dont worry it just means we made them the happiest that theyre trying to copy it with the new girl

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I can truly say that your statement about tying his actions to your value, the white horse and being the one who got away has really begun to transform my thinking. I lost myself in my relationship and catered to his every need always before myself. Your site is a daily inspiration for me and has helped me from falling completely apart. I came home to a note on the table after 12 years and the day before he was telling me he loved me. The emotional abuse I felt was devastating and I never want to feel that again. Thank you for being such a strong role model and helping me to see my value and begun to love myself and put me first. I haven’t seen or spoken to him in 30 days and am letting my actions speak for me. It isn’t easy but each day I gain strength and re read your posts.

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You go girl. You had the strength all along; you are more beautiful, strong and resilient than you even know. Thank you for being a part of this tribe and for allowing me to feel less alone in my experiences, pain and emotions. Keep doing what you’re doing. You can never go wrong with having your own back! All my love to you soul sister XOXO 🙂

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OMG!!! I am so in love with these blogs and posts!! I have experience this with a guy that I’ve dated and could not for the life of me understood how he could jump into a relationship so quickly without ending the relationship. It is true about the family not knowing because his mom didn’t even know he was seeing someone else. This is so close to home for me. He is now engaged to someone else and I felt a little down about it because everything just happened so fast. This moment just gives me an opportunity to work on myself and my goals and to better myself. Thank you so much for these posts!! They are soo inspiring Through these blogs I have now gain a sense of things that I couldn’t really understand. I feel like I’m talking to my best friend over a wonderful cup of coffee!! . I am an official subscriber!! Yayy!!!

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I’m happy they have helped! 🙂 Thanks so much for the love and support Roberta! All my love to you soul sister XOXO

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This post and others of yours have really helped as i deal with the break up of a 4 year relationship 4 months ago… And the girl he was messaging within days is now the girl he’s seeing.
One day at a time! Getting stronger on my own so my next relationship is a healthy one!! Thanks Natasha for your amazingly insightful spot-on posts xx

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Proud of you Louise. You’re doing the right thing by taking care of yourself and having your own back. You are not alone. Thanks for the love, support and for being a part of this tribe 🙂 XOXO

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Can I please keep you in my shirt pocket to whisper me sage advice? My ex of 6 years moved on less than a week after our break up to the girl he had cheated with and I was doing/thinking/feeling everything you described. Sometimes I think you’re a mind reader and then I started to realize that more so those without empathy are predictable. How boringly basic. I literally laughed out loud when you outlined the traits of a rebound and checked off each and every one. I have to see my ex in a few days for an obligation we both committed to before our break up and this blog post eased my heart for that moment and for the future. <3

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🙂 xoxo

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I have read TONS on rebound relationships…and I am continually convinced he’s in one. He showed up at a club I was at after we had split and not had contact in a week..seen me dancing with another guy..then a few days later, he’s made it known on his social media that he’s back with someone he dated way before meeting me…”I am so glad I found you…right person…right time” Only thing is…she’s my manager…granted I knew all along they were friends and kept in contact. After finding this out, I blocked him in every way possible. F**K it hurts for sure..and I do not want him back…he didn’t treat me very well…I know he hasn’t changed…but UGH he really pushed the pain button in me…thanks for this…

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Thank you for sharing. You’re not alone Karen XO

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Your blog is amazing. Thank you so much! You’re also so so beautiful :3

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🙂 Thank you! So happy the blag has helped! XO

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My ex moved on within two weeks after telling me he didn’t have enough time in his life for a relationship. He claims he wasn’t cheating but I don’t know what to believe. He texted to tell me he’s in a new relationship. He says now he just wants to get married and have a family – he knew that’s what I wanted. So I can’t keep comparing myself to this new woman and dreading the announcement of the inevitable engagement. Your article is so helpful – I read it most days as I find reading and actually believing it takes time. Huge thanks

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Thank YOU Annie! I’m happy that the post helped. Keep coming back to the blog and just know that you’re not alone. XOXO

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Thank you!!! Wow, this is exactly what I needed to read today! Feeling 100% better!

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Yayyy! Happy it helped! Thanks Elize 🙂 xx

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That feels so good to read! My ex of three years dumped me 4 months ago completely out of the blue two days after his grandma died. I really loved him and i genuinely thought he was as happy as i was. We had just came back from our first big vacation together and we already knew where to go next year..
It was such a shock for me, i could barely cope and fuction in any ways possible. I begged and cried and begged even more.
But because of the f**ktard he showed to be after our breakup, he came over and we had sex multiple times. It all seemed like it was going to be better and we still had a chance! He told me about this bisexual girl his brother (!!) dumped a few weeks ago and how nice she was. Yep, now that’s the girl he’s dating! That’s so unbelivable, even my close friends thougt i was making a bad joke.
They became a couple just two weeks after we have met the last time and he held my hand while shopping. It’s such a shock for me as it all seems so weird and confusing. I cut off all contact and i deleted him from every social media – i am not able to stalk because it simply hurts too fucking much. Of course, he makes his new girl known on every picture on instagram and they seem super-duper happy.
I really love this man, i still do. Even though I don’t even want him back because of how he acted after the breakup! But seeing this, i think the chances of being a rebound aren’t too low! Thank you so much for this blog!

Lots of love from Germany xxx

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Thanks Henni! I’m so happy it helped 🙂 You’re doing the right thing and I agree. Thank you for your love, sisterhood & support! Hope to give you a big hug in person when I’m in Germany someday soon! xxxx

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Thank you for your post. This gave me lots of hope and was exactly what I needed. We were in a relationship for almost 10 years and he was my first boyfriend. Last year his father died and since then he dealt with depression and started a therapy. He broke up with me after I supported him in this period. Now I found out that he met someone just 1 month after the breakup. She is the total opposite of me and isn’t at all what he was looking for in a girl. He told me he didn’t want a long-distance relationship anymore (we moved in together after being apart for a long time) and when I told him that I wanted to do my Masters he said that he could not identify with someone who is studying again because he is working and wants a serious relationship. His new girlfriend just recently started studying (she is super young) and they live far away from each other. But I’m a bit confused because instead of bragging, he is hiding his new girlfriend and some of his close friends didn’t even know he was dating again. So I’m not quite sure what to think about it. And now almost 5 months passed since we broke up but he kept on messaging me but I tried to ignore him. So what to you think?

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Hi Lisa!

I wish that I could help, but I have too much to say to type it all out and not enough hands to type or hours in the day. This is why I cannot give specific advice in the comments.

Thanks for the love, for reading and for your understanding.

You’re not alone XOXO

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Can this article work the other way around, let’s say if my ex-girlfriend is the one who rebounded and I’m stuck still thinking about what could’ve been?

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Hi Chris! Yes it can! More men than you would think read this blog and I coach men as well. Thanks for reading!

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Its been 5 weeks my ex and I broke up. And this article helped me in so many ways that I am so excited to get on with my life! You described his behavior to a T!! And when I get down on MYSELF, I find myself returning to this blog and makes me smile again. I smile again because I have taken myself out of the situation. He can enjoy his rebound and I pray everyday that he finds himself because he truly lost “the one”… haha

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YES! You go girl! So proud of you Belle 🙂 Thanks for being a part of this tribe. XOXO

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you are a godsend. my mental state did a total 180 after reading this and now i can happily get on with my life without wasting another precious minute moping around. i cannot thank you enough. <3

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This brought tears to my eyes. Thank YOU Mo. I’m glad that this post served you. You are supported, backed, loved, believed in and never, ever alone. I’m honored to have played a small part in your healing and realizations. All my love to you. XOXO

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Your blog has truly changed my life!! I just came across your blog and you are amazing!! I am dealing with a long distance breakup of 3.5 years. I have known him for 5 and just like that 3 months later he is already in a relationship with another girl and it hurts but after reading your blogs, I feel so enlightened. I am working on the reactivity piece (reacted to his new relationship by texting him) but going forward I am going to react like the “psycho” ex but the “girl who got away”! My ex is rushing his new relationship so he doesn’t have to explain being single or another failed relationship! You hit it right on the head!! Even if he gets married tomorrow, I know who he is at the core and no matter how much the new girl loves, supports, shows affection, etc., he is still the insecure narcissist who mistreated me. He is her deal now and I am FREE!!! I feel so much better. I am redirecting my focus on me!!!

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YES! Thanks so much for sharing Dee & for your love, sisterhood and support. You are believed in, understood, loved, backed and never alone. Proud of you sister! XX

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Met up with my ex tonight, 5 weeks since the breakup. He left it open ended saying he may regret it some day, but isn’t fair to ask me to wait for him to find out. I finally had to ask if he was dating someone else. Turns out he met a girl 5 days after our breakup and has been seeing her since. I even called him out that it is a rebound and he said “I know”. But he still chose to see what happens with her instead of working on our relationship (which he also admitted putting zero effort into fixing). Thank you for this article! It is bookmarked, I know I’ll need this reminder.

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So happy it helped! Thanks R 🙂

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Hi natasha..
I just broke up with a guy i’ve dated for 3 years. I really love him. I was sad that he broke up with me last month. A day after that he said he wanted to try it again with me and i said yes. I was very busy at that time doing my exam to get my MD degree. He was already done with his exam (we are at the same phase of catching degrees as MD) so i asked him for his understanding everytime he asked for more attention.
After that time i said yes to get back with him he didnt even reply my message. So i thought we wanted me to finish my exam and then go back to him. 4 days after that i texted him saying i’m done with my exam and i wanted to meet him. I texted back right away and said he didnt want me back and he wanted me to go as far as i could from him. He said that he is so stressed out by me and dont want me back for any reason. I didnt texted back after that cuz i was in major pain and didnt know what to do. So i called my brother to get me to the next flight to his city and stay with him for a week.

2 weeks after he brokeup with me, i texted him saying that i am sorry for whatever it is that makes him broke up with me and i told him i will always love him.
He texted back right away saying thank you and told me that he is in a relationship with someone new.
And that hit me like nothing i can ever describe.
I weigh me down cuz i have to see him again at campus for another 3 months of preparing for the last exam before really achieving our degrees as medical practioners.
Minutes later my bestfriend who always have my back told me that he is with someone else now and his new girl is a girl from the same campus,same class so i have to see them together for 3 months to come and it started in a month.
He followed my bestfriend instagram and changed his profile picture with his new girl when he knows my bestfriend will report back to me right away which she did.

I was surfing through google to find something to read to get me reach an understanding of whatever happen with my life right now and i found this writings and i just want to thank you for this.
It pains me to my deepest soul knowing that i would be seeing them together everyday for 3 months. He posted so many pictures of them together as a couple and he hold her like he is very happy now. The girl also do the same.

But reading this, although it didnt erase my pain completely,at least it calms me, and make me feel less lonely and less sad.
Thank you so much.
U are amazing and very beautiful.

Love from Indonesia.
(Pardon my bad english)

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Thank you Gita! I’m happy that it helped 🙂 Keep coming back here to the blog and just remember – you are loved, understood, supported, believed in and never, ever alone. xo

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Instantly feeling better after reading this. Literally going to read it every morning I get up until this pain goes away and I am no longer spending my time thinking about this relationsh*t!!! THANK YOU

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YAY!!! So happy it helped! 🙂 xo

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I’m soooo HAPPY I’ve found YOU!!! It’s like everything you say is exactly what’s in my head and you’re just confirming that I’m better than the current BS my ex has put me through! The desire for closure so I can let go and truly accept the reality that he’s a total empathy bankrupt douche bag STOPS now! And I’m PROUD to say regardless of the utter disrespect he shoved in my face with his immature and sharp tongue as he was removing his toxic self out my door, I’ve stayed on my white horse and haven’t contacted his sorry ass since and that was 3 weeks ago AND with a social media flaunt of his new ‘friend’ three days post break up… *vomits and hits block on all social media*. Thanks girl!!! You’re a gem! Xx

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YAAAAAAA!!! Thank YOU Chloe! So happy to help and honored to play a part in your healing and realizations. Sending you love soul sister. X

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My ex and I were together for 6 years. He was my first everything. We met when we were twelve years old and started dating very young at fourteen years old. We had a rollercoaster relationship all through junior high, high school, and a couple years into college. We broke up about six months ago at the end up September, but in December we rekindled for a minute but I could tell he was hiding something and he was very shady. We fought and stopped talking. I recently just started talking to his sister again who is my best friend and she has filled me in on what he’s been up to and all the lies he’s told. Only two weeks after our rekindling in December and only three months after our official breakup of 6 years, he took a new girl to Christmas to meet his family. It’s now the end of march and they are still together. She’s my opposite. I’m tall, relatively slim, blue eyes, dark hair, girly girl, 20 year old college student. She’s a very short, chubby, orange haired, homely, 17 year old high school student. I refuse to look on his social media to see them together but everyone talks about how he downgraded big time and they don’t understand. His family still prefers me. His sisters still always comment on my Facebook stuff and message me. I hangout with his sister/my best friend every weekend. His mom wants to go have a girls day soon and whenever I go over to their house when he’s not home his parents are overly excited to see me. Not feeling replaced in the family aspect helps me cope with the new reality, but I still can’t comprehend how he can move on like this. Especially with someone that is so extremely different than me. I have this page bookmarked on my phone and every time I feel sad or confused or lost I just reread this. I don’t know if he’s in a rebound or not. Evidence says yes but my heart wants to say I’m just that replaceable. I’m not even sure I so much want him back as I just want him to want me back. I want him to regret. And hurt. And beg. I know that’s not healthy. But it’s how I feel. I gave my all to him. And he threw me away and “moved on” like it was nothing. Some days I’m not this weak or hurt. But today I just feel extremely lost and sad.

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You are understood, loved, supported and never, ever alone <3 xoxo

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Absolutely determined to stay in my white horse and ride off into the sunset, kicking sand into those narcissistic, dead eyes as I leave – thank you xx

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🙂 thank YOU Caroline! xxxx

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SPOT ON! Love it. Thank you. You articulated the absolute truth perfectly!

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Happy it helped!! 🙂 Thanks Yelena! xx

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thank you, i really needet to hear this. i found week ago that my ex is dating someone totally different from myself 3months after we end. and he was trying to be my friend too.but i have cut all the contact now after i found out. but what amazes me that he had to post date pics on his social media with this nobody for me too see… how much fun they have!
it hurt me so bad i coudnt stop crying,i coudnt eat for days. I havent answer his messages anymore,then he stopt writing me,so iassumed he moved on and is happy with this new person.
but this article is like my story, he was emotionaly unavelable… treated me like crap most of the time, at the beguining he was amazing but then all turned around i dont even know why, i dont understand why cuz i was so loving and good to him.
My man thinks grass is somehow greener on the otherside. he even send me letter last month that he sees us going back together after we dated other people…WTF!? u sirious. i dont want any bitch leftovers after u had enough of other women. Imnot like that, i dont need to date bunch of strangers to make me feel good or know what I have front of me. thats just fucked up!
I have red every singe page on google how to get ur ex back,i was doing that all days, so many weeks… i thoght i go insane.
but i dont believe this person will change and the man I knew he was was probably just a lie or he is gone forever.
it hurts so much and its very hard to accept it,cuz we supose to get married i use to be his queen… hes everything. How can person just go cold on u like this!? 🙁 But i love this article how straight and honest it is and all the F words 😉 damn it! <3 good luck to everyone whos in this situation!

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So happy that the post helped/served you! Thanks soul sister! You’re not alone <3 XOXO

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is it possible for a man to just keep on rebounding? i dated my ex for a year and we got together 4 months after he separated from his wife… so clearly i was a rebound. and 2 weeks after our breakup, he’s already dating another girl who is more like his ex but nothing like me… could she be a rebound too? xo

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Hi Jessica!

Yes it is! Wish I could elaborate more on here, but I don’t have the time. It is definitely possible. xo

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