I’m traveling right now for work – meetings for an upcoming project and my book, working with clients, 3 speaking engagements and ending it in Vegas tomorrow to support my girlfriend and business partner, Bijouterie, at a jewelry convention where the line that we collaborated on will be featured. 6 cities total. Nonstop, until… I was stopped in my emotional tracks yesterday by a question that I was asked during an interview: “What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever been given?” This got me thinking about the lessons I’ve learned, the questions you guys have asked me here on the blog and social media, and just how.many.things I wish I could tell my younger self.
I thought for a moment and then, without hesitation… “The worst piece I’ve ever received is: ‘It’s not that simple.'”
The thing is, it really IS that simple.
The most destructive addiction we engage in, is our addiction to complication. I say “most destructive,” because the tendency we have to unnecessarily complicate the sh*t out of everything is the most effective fertilizer for all other addiction.
Complication = Problems. And Problems = Valid License Renewal of DOUBT, FEAR and being totally JUSTIFIED in contributing to your own devolution.
The more complicated everything is, the more overwhelmed, claustrophobic and imprisoned we feel. This leads to emotional constipation, which makes us seek out a quick-fix, an emotional laxative in the name of f*cktard partners, opinions and advice from everyone under the sun, bad decisions, more addiction, contradiction, validation seeking and feeling like we have no other choice but to wash, rinse & repeat all of the above.
We wonder why we keep engaging in the same patterns – different people, same result – when really, we just keep complicating. We philosophize the sh*t out of everything until we become so emotionally drained/exhausted, not only are we (understandably) unable to move, evolve and grow, but we overvalue the crumbs from others out of self-inflicted starvation.
We feel like life’s unfortunate puppet when in reality, we’re essentially manifesting our own misery and dis-ease.
I used to create so much unnecessary drama out of things that I was convinced, were major issues. Eventually, these things always passed and I’d forget about them as soon as the next wave hit.
As long as I had complication in my life, I didn’t have to take action and had a valid license to complain. I couldn’t commit to myself (only to unavailable lovers & friends), and because I felt so deprived and drained, I’d emotionally thrill seek in the name of allowing others to dictate my value, identity and worth.
I want to share with you some of the lessons I’ve learned and also, answer a few questions readers have asked about 2 things that I wish I would have started sooner: My diet and workout routine.
Advice is obviously always easier to give than to receive, but the realization of how much I’ve unnecessarily complicated my life in the past, inspired me to share some of the lessons I’ve learned.