This post is an open letter to you. The you that has had it with being nice at the expense of your self-respect. The you that feels ashamed and insecure; beaten down by everyone and everything that you work so hard to uplift. The you that gives people credit that they have not earned. The you that feels defective. The you that feels forgotten. The you that has lost faith. The you that does not believe “husband material” is anything more than an urban myth at this point. The you that feels invisible. The you that doesn’t think she can hold on much longer. This is for you.
You have time, but you no longer have one minute of it to waste.
It took me over two decades to realize I had given more power to the opinions of others than I ever did in coming up with an original thought of my own.
Nothing feels worse than not knowing who the f*ck you are. Nothing feels worse than allowing toxic people to create an identity for you. Nothing feels worse than having to tolerate your way through life; having to pretend to be someone you’re not because it hurts less than being abandoned.
Nothing feels worse than no standards.
The turning point is when you realize that you actually have all the power that you think you lack. You have the power of choice.
Not after you buy a ticket to a seminar or purchase a course or subscribe to a mailing list… Now.
You are one decision away from a new identity, a new life, and a new you. You are one decision away from attracting the husband material that you have all but given up on. You are one decision away from losing all of the emotional weight you’ve gained and unclogging your relational arteries once and for all. You are one decision away from (finally) exhaling.
You will no longer be held back by the opinions of your family and friends, your background and religion, your coworkers, your ex, and most important… the cynical audience in your head. The audience that convinces you to get back down every time you so much as try to get up. You are about to give that audience the most dignified middle finger of all time.
Not being able to find true friendships, true love, and husband material is the result of you giving your power away. It’s time to take it back.
You are damaged, but not defective.
You are down, but not defeated.
There is a big difference.