“How To Get Over Someone Who Broke Your Heart & Let You Down” – Yourself included.
This is one of the most important posts I’ve ever written. Not because it’s going to teach you how to get over a breakup or someone who broke your heart in some obvious, already heard and played-out way, but because it deals with something that I recently experienced and am still feeling my way through the heartbreak, acceptance, and shame of.
The only difference between right now and years ago is that in the past, I would have allowed my feelings associated with this experience to completely paralyze me.
The grip of that paralysis would remain I until was reduced to someone that I had no choice but to hate, dishonor, punish, sabotage the happiness of, disrespect, and subconsciously attract relationships that were gasoline to the flame of those negative beliefs.
Now, those feelings manifest in a much different way.
This doesn’t mean that I no longer feel the pain associated with them. I actually feel pain on a much deeper and more constructive level now because I’m no longer excited to put the bandage of avoidance on the cancer of my insecurities.
The pain hurts but it doesn’t metastasize like it used to.
In fact, it’s not even cancer anymore. It doesn’t claim its own zip code and build a home for my fears to reside in and rule.
It’s a recurring guest star that I know will never get a permanent role, as long as I give a reality-based purpose to the times that it decides to knock on my emotional door.
Today, I always make sure to acquaint myself with my pain to the point of it propelling me into action.
Action that’s rooted in having your own back is the ONLY purpose your pain is EVER meant to have.
Action rooted in growth gives your pain a purpose.
So, I decided to take action in the best way I know how – through the connection that writing here on PMS affords me.