You may not think about or care to admit it, but your gut knows when you are being strung along. Yet, it’s still helpful to know how to stop being strung along by a guy.
Is there a way to stop rehashing the past and rehearsing the future? Is there a way to stop being strung along by a guy?
Here’s what I’ve learned:
Waiting around for someone to validate you from a call or text back is a slow and eventual murder of your self-esteem. And without self-love, you will always look to others to give you worth and value (validation). Always. Unavailable guys are all too willing to accommodate because just like desperation, they can smell a backbone-less, insecure girl from a mile away. One that will put up with their unavailability, not pressure them into anything serious, and that they can keep stringing along.
If this sounds familiar guess what? You’re living in the land of delusional limbo and robbing yourself at the same time.
It’s kind of like going to Las Vegas with friends and instead of going out to enjoy the food, shops, the spa, the shows, and the clubs… you spend all your time at the casino playing this one sh*tty slot machine. Your friends tell you to give it a rest but you’re in so deep, you’ve convinced yourself that the second you leave and “give up,” someone much less deserving is going to sit down and win your jackpot. So what happens? You never win the big jackpot. You end up broke and your friends have all given up on you. The vacation is over. You’ve wasted your time and feel worse than you ever did before you sat down to play as a jackpot hopeful.
There was no convincing you otherwise while you were playing. You were in a trance. Very focused and rightfully so. You put everything you had – all of your money, emotions, and happiness into a game in which the house always wins.
Waiting around for someone to be ready or change is not love. It’s a massive waste of your time.
When you wait around for and continually excuse someone that disrespects you, they’re never going to view your dedication to them as…
“Wow! I’m so lucky. Look at how much of an unavailable jerk I’ve been and look at this gem in front of me. I see it all now. She has put up with so much crap from me. I’m so lucky and ready to put a ring on it. I will never behave this way again even though I’ve been consistently doing so my entire life.”
He’s going to think…