One thing that I’ve always a hard time with is bouncing back after a breakup and trying to figure out how to stop hurting.
I’m much better now than I was years ago, but every now and then, something happens and I find myself stuck on feelings of pain and rehashing the past.
I hadn’t been enough for him because I believed that I wasn’t good enough for anyone – myself included. You can’t get someone to see in you what you can’t see in yourself.
I was devastated. So what did I do? I would go involve myself with another emotionally unavailable guy or a new friend that I felt like I had to “win over” and somehow compete for their love and attention. And as long as I involved myself with people like this, I never had to deal with the pain of my past. Even though I was in pain, I wasn’t really doing anything to get to the root of it.