The first thing you want to know right after a breakup is how to make him regret losing you. Maybe if you cut him off, he will miss you or if you leave him alone, he’ll come back but you don’t know. What you want more than anything is for him, just for one moment, to feel the pain and anxiety that you’ve been feeling nonstop. You want him to feel remorse for what he did see what he put you through. You want him to realize how much you loved him, believed in him, and stood by him, in spite of him mixing signals and treating you like garbage all along.
When it comes to knowing how to make him regret losing you…
Even though you shouldn’t give a crap whether someone who disrespected and hurt you regrets losing you, it doesn’t matter. That’s what you want and I get it. If you didn’t want that, even at some point just for a short period of time, you wouldn’t have blood running through your veins. We’re human, we have emotions, we’re all insecure, and we all feel pain.
Is there really a way to get him to regret losing you? In my experience, yes. So here we go: How to make him regret losing you…
First, you need to realize that when you’re dealing with an ex who is emotionally unavailable, he will never have that “I get it” moment that you so want him to have. He’ll never realize your worth because he can’t realize his own. People who truly know their worth don’t have to cut down other people, let alone the one who they are supposed to be committed to and in love with.
No matter how highly you believe he thinks of himself, he is a narcissist who appears to have a high level of confidence. The thing about narcissists though, is that they’re actually the most insecure of the toxic species. Emotionally unavailable, narcissistic guys cannot and will not ever be able to empathize with anyone.
The only way to get to an emotionally unavailable narcissist is through their ego.
Do you want to know how to make him regret losing you? cut.him.off.
Let him see how life is without you. Let him wonder what in the hell you are avoiding him for. Let him miss out on the light that you are. I know you don’t feel like “missing out on you,” is that big of a deal and that you’ve made enough mistakes in the relationship for him to want to move on immediately and forget you, but guess what? You haven’t. Cutting him off and speaking through your actions will decimate his ego.
And ego is the oxygen and the currency with which these guys run on.
As hard as it is to cut someone off that you want to speak to and hop back in bed with… you have to. Your emotional life depends on it.
If this guy was able to behave with an ounce of integrity, dignity, respect, honesty, and loyalty… you wouldn’t be reading this right now. So, WHY do you think cyberstalking him, crying, begging, and explaining to him how much he hurt you is going to do anything? The cat is always going to meow, it’s never going to bark.
You must speak with your actions.
When you speak with your actions 2 amazing things happen:
- You translate to the world that you are a dynamic character in your own life story.
- By taking action (even if you have to fake it till’ you make it and are a depressed mess at first), you will inevitably end up more confident and start building your self-esteem and self-worth back. By having boundaries and being honest with yourself and others, you will begin to see the benefits of your commitment to yourself because you will be empowered through the decisions that you make that contribute to your well being.
That’s NOT you.
Yes, cutting a guy like this off will get him thinking. Yes, It will make him think of the good times, and yes, he will start to rethink his decisions (because you cut him off and are not giving him any reason to label you as anything needy or negative). He will begin to miss the you that was all too willing to do any and everything for him.
Reintroduce him to who you really are: The girl who speaks with her actions. The girl who is no longer willing to be involved with anyone that treats her any less than she treats herself and contrary to popular belief… the girl who HAS a backbone, standards, and limits.
When proving through your actions that you don’t give a rat’s ass and that you’re done, you make him feel out of control. He will most likely panic because these guys are all about being in the driver’s seat. Because he’s feeling a loss of control, he will reach out. This is NOT because he’s missing you in the way that you deserve and want him to. He just wants control and the access that he had to you, back. Remember, you’ve taken away his currency and his oxygen.
Remember, he is only capable of selfish regret, not selfless and genuine remorse. If you stick to your guns and continue to not engage on any level, regret will kick in. Regret that the girl who put up with all of his crap is long gone.
And THAT girl doesn’t have time for the bs any longer.
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