Holiday blues happen to everyone. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, the holidays have a way of triggering anxiety, stress & the kind of pain contractions that initiate feelings of abandonment, “I’ll-never-get-what-I-want-my-ship-has-sailed” hopelessness, pain from the past, heartbreak & insecurity.

This time of year is magical, yet difficult for so many because the holidays are based upon a foundation of miracles happening through elevated hope, connectivity & belief.

But what if all hope is lost?

Just like starting to date again right after a breakup, if you have unresolved trauma and pain, the holidays will do nothing more than highlight the lack that you feel in your life. This will then lead to feelings of guilt for being the self-imposed, emotional scrooge during a time of year that’s fundamentally geared toward joy and selflessness. Thus, the holiday blues.

Here are 3 ways to kick the holiday blues and turn your hopelessness into hope.

The kind of hope that this time of year is all about. 

  1. Don’t ask the universe for an answer and then choose to ignore the answer because it didn’t come in the most desirable package. 

    Some of the most profound signs/answers that I’ve ever received in my life have been delivered in the most imperfect, painful and undesirable packages. The more genuine interest that you have in the answer, the less likely you’ll be to allow the package in which it was delivered, to blind you from recognizing and acting upon the answer. You’d never specify to your friends and family exactly how you want your presents wrapped & delivered, so why do it with the universe? The truth is, you’re not going to like the way that every package in your life is delivered and wrapped, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t recognize and accept the gift.

  2. Understand that hopelessness is not a fate that you are unwillingly subjected to.

    Hopelessness is GONE the moment that you decide to face your fears and take ACTION. Action slays hopelessness. Remember – you are in control and responsible for everything that you’re CHOOSING to think, subscribe to, feel & believe.

  3. Hopelessness is nothing more than an emotional life raft in the ocean of pain.

    You’ll never get to the shore of hope until you decide to submerge yourself in the ocean of pain. Why? because it is only then that there will be a burning desire to swim. Embrace your pain and feel your feelings because the kind of enlightenment, beauty, wisdom, self esteem, confidence and luck that you’re after is nothing more than past PAIN. Pain that was faced, processed, healed and evolved from.

And the best part? No matter how you’re feeling, you’re not alone. We’ve got each other – all over the world. And that in and of itself is a reason to be hopeful.

Thank you all, from the bottom of my heart, for being a part of this tribe. I’ve got so much coming in 2017 that I can’t wait to share with you.

Whatever you celebrate & wherever you are, wishing you all a very happy and peaceful holiday.

And just remember – You.are.enough. Just as you are.

xo Natasha

Also !! the PMS Holiday Giveaway winer will be announced later today 🙂


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Merry Christmas Natasha, Thanks for the support and the good work you do on your site. May 2017 be a better year for us all to move forward, and look back only in wisdom, and of lessons learnt not to repeat. You and ladies that have shared their stories are a blessing and comfort. It is a good feeling to know you are not alone. LOL I have even been inspired by your home décor.


Thanks sister! Merry Christmas to you too! I couldn’t agree more or have said it any better. You are far from alone. Thank you for being a part of this tribe. Lol! Thank you!! 🙂 XOXO


Merry xmas Natasha! Thanks for another great post. This helped me a ton cause i can definitely relate


Merry Christmas beautiful! 🙂 So happy it helped!! XO


Natasha ….

Knew you’d come through for us again this Christmas. The perfect article just when I needed it most. You’ve been a shining beacon of love, support and hope in a difficult year. Thank you!! xo


I’m glad it helped! Thanks D!! 🙂 xoxo


Merry Christmas!? Thank you for this blog and your smart and unique perspective. You have helped me more than you will ever know. Love the phrase “Action slays hopelessness.”


Thank YOU Carolyn – for your love, sisterhood & support. Merry Christmas to you too! 🙂 XOXO


Merry Christmas dear Natasha! You’re so giving always – writing a post like this during the festive season. Always making sure your tribe are okay.
I hope you got spolit rotten this Christmas! Lots of treats and love. ???
I know my 2017 will be sparkling – I’ve gained so much personal ground through your blog this year. I operate differently and have truly learnt the art and value of self love.

Thank you for helping me gain that skill! ?❤️

Happy holidays! ????



Thank you Lorelle! 🙂 You made my day! 2017 is going to be YOUR year! I’m so proud of and happy for you. Honored to have played a small part in your healing and realizations. Thank you for being a part of this tribe. Happy holidays and New Year to you soul sis! xxxx


I love you NATASHA!


Love you too Hilda! x

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