COPING SKILLS, DILEMMAS DECODED & BEING ALONE: HOLIDAY EDITION

I have this thing with organization. Not in an over the top, obtrusive and annoying way, but in a “this-is-how-I-maintain-sanity,” kind of way. I understand that my allergy to bullsh*t and clutter is my thing, so I never try to impose it on anyone else. It’s just how I personally like to roll. I’m a … Continue Reading

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FALL OFF THE WHITE HORSE & BREAK NO CONTACT

I will never be able to reiterate enough times the importance, benefit, and impact of knowing exactly what to do in your most painful, desperate, angry and triggered moments: Stay on your white horse. As I wrote in a past post: “ALWAYS stay on your white horse. If you ever want anyone who hurt and … Continue Reading

HOW TO STOP HATING YOURSELF – ESPECIALLY AFTER A BREAKUP

“How To Stop HATING Yourself…” Whoa. Slow down. The title of this post sounds harsh to me no matter how many times I read it. We grow up being told how hate is this strong, destructive, can’t-take-back, divisive and all-around wrong emotion to carry and channel toward others. The devastating, “need-not-engage-in” consequences of hate, however, … Continue Reading

NO CONTACT RULE: HOW TO MAKE IT 1000 TIMES EASIER & MORE EFFECTIVE

The no contact rule is something that we’re all familiar with post-breakup. I hate referring to it as a “rule,” because it just adds to this stigma of feeling more like a formulaic prison sentence that has to be applied for some desired “result,” rather than what it truly is: Something that anyone with a … Continue Reading