Lately, I’ve been hearing a lot about how to “live your best life.” It’s everywhere right now. #livingmybestlife and #bestlife are popular hashtags on social media. I’m listening to “Best Life,” as I type this by the pool.
So what does it really mean to live your best life?
And how do you go about even knowing how to live your best life?
I never write from any kind of an “I-am-your-guru,” psychological high horse. I write to help people out of pain, insecurity, and suffering that I have gone through and still go through. I write to navigate men and women away from the magnetic pull of f*cktards and the bs/darkness associated with it all. I write with the hope of affirmation that I’m not alone.
I also write to remember and solidify my own advice.
Sometimes when I write a longer post (like the last one), it allows me to come to very simple realizations/answers to issues that thrive on complication. The complication of these issues perpetuate mediocrity to such an extent, we become reduced to thinking that “live your best life,” means proving haters wrong, getting a certain number of likes/comments, making him/her burn in regret, living a life based more on impressing others than impressing ourselves, and being “good enough,” for a pig to turn into a puppy.
As far as knowing how to live your best life, I’ve come to a very simple realization that I know works.
How am I so sure?
- It has transformed and attracted mutuality, value, and quality in my professional, personal, romantic, and familial relationships that I never thought was possible.
- It has allowed me to go from being labeled as “too sensitive” and “too much,” to me being my own white horse, rider, and ride.
- It has allowed others to recognize that I have limits and standards without me having to verbalize or write them out in smoke signals.
- It has allowed me to actually STICK to those limits and standards with a complete absence of guilt for implementing them.
- It has allowed me to define my own identity instead of adopting a personal identity of reluctant f*cktard creation.
And most significant of all – It has built the most unshakeable, unf*ckwithable confidence, self-love, and self-respect.
The worst advice I have ever got in my life: “Natasha, it’s not that simple.” I think that it really IS that simple. Our fears and insecurities are prone to complication creation so that we don’t have to do the scariest thing: accept, adjust/implement boundaries, and take action in our own lives.
Looking back – Every moment that I spent investigating if the weeds in my life would turn into a rose garden, came at the expense of my ability to recognize my own roses. I then weed-labeled myself and as much as I claimed to want a fellow rose… ALL I attracted were more weeds who either couldn’t see the rose in me because I couldn’t see it in myself, or saw the rose and exploited my own blindness for their benefit.
When it comes to knowing how to live your best life, it’s stupid simple.