A few weeks ago, I wrote a post – How to Be Happy Again After Being Cheated On. But what about trust? How do you even begin to rebuild a foundation that without its solidity, true love and happiness cannot exist? How do you reroute the circuitry that now automatically directs you to second-guessing before believing? How do you undo the triggers that give away these insecurities in the most disempowering ways and end up attracting more people who just take advantage of and doormat you? How do you get your power back? Learning how to trust again after heartbreak, betrayal, and being lied to is something that I’ve struggled with and still struggle with to this day. So, I asked my dear friend and PMS team member, Lorelle, to write another guest post to shed light on this. Lorelle, take it away…
I would bet money that not a single person reading this hasn’t had their trust broken, shattered, ripped at the seams or stretched so far it might not ever feel or look the same again.
The reason I’m so sure of this is because trust is what underpins our relationships. All of them. As we begin to know a person, and that relationship grows, trust also blossoms. Trust is like a seed – As it shoots up and becomes stronger, it begins to entwine the people in the relationship. This doesn’t happen overnight, and neither should it. Deep trust is shared and developed over time, not just given.
Trust makes us feel safe because it is like an insurance policy:
I trust you to love me,
I trust you to be honest,
I trust you to look out for me,
I trust you to take care of me if I am sick,
I trust you to keep your word,
I trust you to support me,
I trust you to stay in my life,
I trust you to be happy for me and have my best interests at heart,
I trust you to accept me as I am…
But how do you trust again – if a trust has been compromised?
How do you trust again – A PERSON who broke your trust?
How do you trust again – YOURSELF? Your judgment of others?